After a four year absence from his son, Hunters father has come back into his life. This hasn’t just suddenly happened, its been quite a few months in the making. Its just not something I wanted to share with whole world. Until now. Hunter’s father is working overseas, so for the past few months they have been skypeing and talking on the phone constantly until he comes home next month. Its been a great thing. Hunter is super excited about having his dad back and a bigger family. You see, Hunter’s father has since been married and had another baby. And in four years to go through so many life changes can really make you grow as a person, which is what has happened in this situation.
His wife and I have been facebook friends for a while and will send random emails to each other. But when all this started, her and I started talking more. We both agreed that since Hunters father is out of the country for 10 months out of the year that it would be important that he develop a relationship his step-mom and sister so he feels like he is part of their family.
So last weekend we took a trip up to Vermont for a few days to spend with Tania and their daughter. Yup, the ex hanging out with the new wife.
And ya know what?
It was awesome. We get along great and Hunter had so much fun. I honestly felt like I was at my girlfriends house with her baby. Tania and I are so much alike, its easy for us to get along. And I’m so over my ex that it wasn’t weird or uncomfortable or anything. We were kids when we had Hunter.
Hunter loves being a big brother and was so good with his sister but him and Tania have so much in common, i think he’s her kid. And when Hunters father comes home next month, we plan to go up there and spend April school vacation with them.
Stereotypically, we are not supposed to like each other. Or we’re supposed to pretend to or just be cordial. But you can really like each other. You can actually develop a really good relationship and live in harmony. I think that we are the perfect example of how blended families can all be one family.
I have this vision of when I meet a guy, we’ll be hanging out with Tania and them, and my guy will go off with Hunters dad, and Tania and I will hang out with the kids or something. And it will happen because why can’t it? This also makes it so much easier for Hunter, especially at this age, for this new significant change happening in his life. If he sees that we are all friends and genuine, hanging out, he’s much more likely to be better adjusted.
We are a blended American family. Just not a typical one.
*P.S. To protect the identity of Hunters dad and Tania’s daughter, I have chosen not to use their names.
**P.P.S. We wanna be the Partridge Family 
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I think it’s perfect! I agree that you guys should be able to get along for Hunter and the baby! You guys can be mature about it. I wish all blended families could be like this!
I think it’s awesome and important for Hunter to see how well the adults in his life handle their relationships. Good for you for making it work!!
I think that’s awesome! It’s so important that parents put their differences aside for the sake of the child and I applaud you your efforts and admire your strength!!!!!!
thats fantastic. I wish my bio parents were more like you. not our they fought dirty and talked even worse about eachother. Great job blondie =)
THAT IS GREAT!! I think that this is going to be great for everyone!
Wow, that is awesome! It’s too bad this isn’t the norm. Hunter is a lucky boy.
I am so excited for y’all! That is so awesome!!!!
I’m so happy that things are going great. That’s wonderful that you can get along, hang out and be a blended family. Congrats hun! I’m so happy for Hunter!
That’s amazing, and inspiring!
That’s awesome. I am one that also gets along really well with my ex and his wife. We don’t even have any children. We were just kids and realize we grew up into different people. It can be done, it doesn’t have to be doom and gloom!
I wish my parents (step and bio) had gotten along. Might’ve made for a saner childhood. Hunter’s going to be a great kid and an amazing adult.
I think this is awesome . You are very lucky to be able to have a relationship like that with the wife of your ex. It will for sure make it easier for Hunter.
I think it’s great that y’all can get along. My mother and stepmother still hate each other’s guts and my dad has been remarried for over 20 years. What’s really funny is that while the 2 women could cause issues at times, my grandparents were always friendly with each other – ALL 8 of them.
thats really greatblondie. Who would not love you? You are fabulous
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It’s good to know that you are not the “stereotyped” kind of a relationship with each other. Others are having it worse. More power in your blending family efforts.
what a great post! You’ve made me smile.
That’s really great! And so much better for everyone…. now if only I could get to the same place…
we’ll call it a work in progress!
I think this is SO wonderful, not only for Hunter and his father, but for all involved.
That’s very cool, but do you think Hunter’s Dad’s actual physical presence will make things a little weird? Talking on the phone/video is one thing but actual face to face is completely different.
I hope it does stay as wonderful as it is now, for Hunter’s sake as well as your own.
I am glad that we can be an inspiration to people! I am the new wife for those of you who do not know. I love Nicole to pieces and feel like she is an old friend and even possibly we can become best friends. We have so much in common. Not to mention I love Hunter like he is my own. He truly is an amazing kid and is so selfless and has so much respect for others which is amazing for an 8 year old boy. He is wise beyond his years. I think Nicole has done an amazing job raising him and if I can be as good of a mom to my daughter as Nicole is to Hunter then I know I will be successful! As for the dad in the picture I think timing is everything. He has his reasons for not being there and for finally stepping up now. I think everything happens for a reason and this happens to be the best situation it could be. I mean I have no worries about things being weird between Nicole and my husband, and I think he is ready to be the father that Hunter needs; which he wasnt able to be before. I hope our story can inspire people to realize that blended families can all get along. If everyone puts their own feelings aside and focuses on whats best for the kids involved then relationships can develop between the adults. I am truly excited about my new extended family. And welcome Hunter and Nicole into my life and my daughters life as my husband has. I also really want Nicole to develop a relationship with my daughter as I think she has. I mean we are connected because our children are brother and sister. I think thats so cool! I just want the world to know what an amazing woman Nicole is. She should have so much pride in who she is both as a woman and as a mother. I could not ask for a better situation I love that my husband as a son with Nicole because that has brought her and I together! I know that may sound weird to some people but its true. I think this is the way things were suppose to be, and we are all so lucky to be part of it.